You see her from the corner of your eye across the room. The white dress is unmistakable as it flows like water down her sculpted body.

You’ve seen her before. Or so your mind tells you. A “10?.

The stunningly tall 6 foot blonde with legs to die for and a laugh that makes you think of the wind. Her hair is silky smooth while strands of her hair fall into place along her shoulder as she moves in slow motion. Her heels clicking against the marble floor of the hotel, each step coming closer and closer towards you.

Secretly you pray that she’s coming over to talk to you, even though in reality you know that’s probably not true.

Does the above scenario sound familiar? Ever walk into a bar and immediately notice the nightlife princess? The hottest party girl in the venue? We all have this experience as men. My ex-girlfriends were no exception. Although, for those of you have dated “10s”, you’ll know that she’s not a “10? all the time. As a matter of fact, she can look down right average in the morning. And that’s a good thing.

If you think about it, a “10? is an arbitrary definition. Model looks come partly from genetics, but also part from a beauty routine and preparation. Once you understand why you respond to certain features, hopefully you will be less fearful or nervous around beautiful women. Ultimately, being around beautiful women over a long period of time will condition you to behave normally and dominant around even the most pretty of the girls. So let’s break it down, what makes a woman beautiful in pop culture?

1. Movie and media exaggerations.

One example is the slow motion entrances in Not Another Teen Movie. Digital re-imaging and editing makes already above average girls look even better.

2. There’s always something about her that’s not perfect.

And that’s ok. It is part of being human. If you think a girl is “perfect”, you don’t know her well enough yet. Remember that hot girls are still human beings, and all human beings have personal flaws (as well as redeeming qualities)

3. The Power of Makeup

Eye lashes, eye shadow, lipstick, foundation, blush, Vaseline, all of these go into the basic foundations for makeup. A pre-makeup and post-makeup picture of a girl can be as different as a cat is to a tiger.

4. Facial symmetry and plastic surgery

The best surgeons know that 1mm can make the difference between a good looking girl and a hideous one. Cosmetic surgery is at the level where any average girl can become model good-looking with the right surgeon and the ability to pay for the surgery.

Facial symmetry and proportion are indicators of estrogen levels and disease immunity. These days this can be faked, however our primal brains are still wired to respond to facial beauty.

5. Hip and waist ratio and curves

A 70% hip to waist ratio was discovered by biologists and cosmetic surgeons as the ideal. Super models have this frame (or better) as do many well known Hollywood actresses. The hip accentuation ties back to evolutionary theory that the better the curve and ratio, the more likely the woman is fertile for birth.

6. Long legs (Skinny jeans)

Height and high heels accentuate a women’s frame and makes her look taller and skinnier. The legs foreshadow what’s on top as your eyes follow it up her dress. These days, women also wax well and the Barbie-like, porcelain skin further suggests sexual availability of the female body

7. Clothing makes the body

Clothes that fit well can hide weaknesses and accentuate strengths in a woman’s body. Women thus know fit MUCH more than men when it comes to picking out clothes. Push-up bras and other forms of manipulation can also exaggerate breast size and body height and weight proportion.

Case-in-point: Rachel Ray does a great job being “chubby-cute” because her clothing fits her body and makes her seem less fat and more attractive.

7. Contacts and Eye lid surgery

Enhances eye size and can add a crease to Asian girls.

9. Using clothes that fit your body frame

Mo Nique, America Ferera, and Kim Kardashian are all examples of how a female celebrity uses clothing to best hide fat where it counts and highlight her more positive features.

10. High heels

Although it is bad for the foot long term, high heels accentuates a woman’s height and makes her look more thin and proportional than normal. Girls with high heels just look better. Designers also make amazing looking high heels.

11. Hair

Long hair signals fertility and hair quality give evidence to good care and wealth. Most girls take very good of their hair.

12. Breast size and shape

There is a lot of evolutionary backdrop for breast size. Firm breasts show fertility and youth. After the first pregnancy, breasts tend to become less and less firm over time.

13. Skin tone and color

Depending on the country of origin, some girls look better in whiter skin. Developing countries value this because it signals class and an option not to work in the fields. In the States, tanning seems to have taken a big rise with Jersey Shore and other douchebags adding darker skin tone and cancer.

14. Hair control

Hair, nose hair, facial hair, arm hair, leg hair, armpit hair, pubic hair: girls are responsible for looking like porcelain dolls.

15. Dental Veneers

Can make a huge difference in a girl’s looks. Many movie stars have them to maintain pearly whites and adds symmetry to the face.

16. Fat and liposuction

I won’t gross you out with the pictures, but diet and weight control through liposuction has been huge in America. Ultimately this problem can only be solved by going to the source of the behavior. However, people can short cut the process via surgery.

17. Nails

A girl’s nails shows whether she’s taken care of and hints at her social class.

18. Tattoos and piercings

Adds personality and edge to a girl. In the cases of less attractive features, a girl can greatly boost her appeal via tattoos and piercings.

The above 18 tactics are just the basics. From skincare to body wraps, women have mastered the art of looking good, for us, and for themselves. It is time that we joined the game.

[Ed. Note: Vince Lin is a fashion consultant and the author of Seduce With Style ebook, a comprehensive guide to attractive men's fashion. Vince has been coaching clients on dating, creating first impressions and how to dress for the occasion, whether it is at a job or in social situations. Find out how to Seduce With Style by clicking here now.]

I used to take rejections from girls very personally. After all, isn’t a rejection from a girl a signal that you are not good enough for her? Over the years I have been rejected here and there, but most of the time I was pretty careful by only seducing and making a move on the girls within my social circle. This led to few approaches and even fewer girlfriends. One time I was in Texas and I met a beautiful girl at the gift shop. I was suddenly convincing myself that I was in love with her over the course of a 20 minute conversation and I wrote her a goodbye card after my trip. When I called her multiple times thereafter, one of her guy friends picked up and said I was creeping her out.

Where do you go from there?

After that I thought I couldn’t take any rejection ever again and did not approach any girls for 6 months, even though there were many that crossed my sights. My journey led me to the seduction community and since then I have learned that nothing in this life can really defeat you unless you in your mind admit defeat. Such was a phrase from Napoleon Hill and I use it here to illustrate the importance of developing a strong mind. Not just for women, but for life.

Most of the time, girls reject guys for reasons we cannot understand. It could have been anything. The more rejections you receive, the more signals you have for what NOT to do. Think of it as a learning experience. Like playing minesweeper, you want to avoid the similar mistakes that you have been making that are preventing you from success. Be it sex, a long term relationship or even marriage.

The more rejections the better?

A rejection from a girl is a reference point of what not to do, and the more reference points you have, the more you can move towards doing the right thing. Keep in mind that guys who do not approach women are also being rejected. They are just in denial. We are constantly being judged by people and evaluating each other’s social value (whether consciously or unconsciously). As such, isn’t it better to be in control of what other people think of you instead of leaving it to chance? Cry, talk to a friend or post your feelings in diary. Do whatever it takes to feel the pain. Then, take that energy and channel it towards a path that builds on your character. Ordinary effort exerted over a long period of time will produce extraordinary results for you, my friend. Good luck,

[Ed. Note: Vince Lin is a fashion consultant and the author of Seduce With Style ebook, a comprehensive guide to attractive men's fashion. Vince has been coaching clients on dating, creating first impressions and how to dress for the occasion, whether it is at a job or in social situations. Find out how to Seduce With Style by clicking here now.]

When you start talking to a woman in a bar or club, it’s CRUCIAL that your conversation be exciting and entertaining – right out of the gate.

Unlike a date where you can afford a boring moment, in a club you have to be constantly increasing her attraction for you or she’ll move on to the next guy.

One of the most important things for you to remember is to AVOID ROUTINE CONVERSATION AT ALL COSTS.

Don’t talk about work, business, politics, religion, or family – EVEN IF you share these things in common.

If you find yourself entering the “boring zone, ” change the subject fast – and turn it around in funny, cocky way.

A Few “Fallbacks” For Boring Conversations

Find something funny going on around you in the club and point it out, like a guy trying to hit on a girl who’s obviously not into him, a guy who is checking her out (or point out a GIRL who is checking her out), or the guy with the dorkiest outfit.

Tell her you’re going to set her up on a date, and pick out some funny looking guys for her in the club. Have her pick out some girls for you.

Tell her to entertain you with a funny story or joke. This puts the pressure back on her and makes her work to keep you around and entertained.

You can also play little games that women find totally engaging – like one called “Favorites” where you go back and forth and ask each other your favorite things, like your favorite ice cream, restaurants, etc. Spice this up by taking it to the extreme – ask her, what’s the craziest experience she’s ever had in a restaurant, or the most bizarre food she’s ever tried, etc.

Another great game is called the N.A.M.E. game. Take turns taking the letter of the other person’s name and making something funny out of each of them. So if you’re talking to a girl named JEN, you might say, “OK… J – jumps around a lot. E – extremely nerdy. N – needs to stop following me around the club.” Then have her do your name – it’s a great opportunity to see how fun and witty SHE can be as well, which is always a good sign…

“Owning” The Conversation

A lot of times when you meet a woman in a bar or club, she’s going to have her shield up from meeting so many dorky guys in a row. So she’ll give you an attitude. But if you can show her you’re not affected by it – or better yet, turn it around in your favor – you will INSTANTLY trigger a deep attraction within her.

Here are a few examples:

• If she starts bragging about her new purse, say “You are such a dork. “
• If she asks you to do something for her, say “What will you give me? ” If you don’t like her answer, then don’t do it.
• If you mention you are going somewhere and she says, “Oh I hate that place” say “Well it doesn’t like you either.”
• If she asks you what the craziest place you’ve ever had sex is, answer, then ask her what’s the craziest POSITION she’s ever had sex in. This will get a laugh, and she will probably be too shy to answer, so you’ll come out as the “coolest.”

When you’re trying these techniques out, it’s important that you come across as cool and funny, not cynical and arrogant.

[Ed. Note: Since 2001, David DeAngelo has helped over 10 million men improve their success with women. His programs teach men how to overcome their fear of rejection, successfully meet and attract women, and become the kind of man who can be in a successful relationship with a high quality, beautiful woman. Meet and date the kind of women you've always wanted click here now.]

When I first started out trying to master the secrets to women and dating, one of the first things I did was seek out and observe as many of the guys who could naturally attract women.

It seemed that they did little or no work, yet they always had more women than they could handle.

So I made it my mission to find out what exactly what they did differently from us “regular” guys.

At first, I tried to find out all of the lines and techniques they used to get so many women.

I discovered that by using lines and techniques – along with getting my style together and taking care of the “basics” – I could achieve only MARGINAL success.

It wasn’t until I internalized the BELIEFS and ATTITUDES that were behind the techniques that I achieved MASSIVE and CONSISTENT success.

Once you have the framework down, you won’t need to memorize lines or techniques – because you’ll be able to come up with them at will.

I’m about to share with you the attitudes of the naturals, the differences in the way they think, and the real reasons why they have such an easy time meeting women in bars and clubs.

“The Concept Of Cool”

A major realization I had while watching my friends who were naturally good with women was that they had a “cool” vibe that women would instantly pick up on.

I noticed that when they met women, they would always have the attitude that the women were LUCKY to be talking to them. It was as if they subtly said “Do you KNOW who I am?” without actually saying it, and without coming off as arrogant.

After watching enough of these guys, I came to realize that learning to be naturally cool might be the most important thing you can do to attract women.

I know many cool guys who don’t have it all together, yet they always have women. I also know a lot of “not-cool” guys who are very successful in all areas of their lives – with the EXCEPTION of women and dating.</p.

The trick is to learn and internalize the universal traits of “naturally cool” guys.

Here’s a PARTIAL list of these powerful traits – pay careful attention to each one:

The naturally cool guy doesn’t care what people think about him.

A cool guy never places excessive meaning on any one interaction. He knows he can’t please everyone, and he is totally OK with it.

His respect and friendship must be EARNED.

To gain his respect, you have to either be a friend of a friend, or show him that you are also cool. This holds true for both the men and women they meet. They give no “bonus points” for status, looks, or material possessions.

He is open and honest, and never afraid to state his opinion.

A cool, confident guy doesn’t beat around the bush. He’ll always say what’s on his mind because he knows that people value what he has to say, and he’s not afraid to piss someone off.

He is decisive.

If you ask him if he wants to go somewhere, he won’t say “I don’t know” or “what do you want to do?” He’ll tell you “yes” or “no”, whether he thinks it’s what you want to hear or not.

He is confident in his decisions

If you tell him his shirt is ugly, he’ll tell you that you have horrible taste in clothing

What he is doing is always the best thing going.

If a woman is talking to him about the great time she had on Saturday night, you’ll never hear him say, “I wish I would have been there.” He knows that whatever he was doing was either more fun or more important.

He is always the best thing going.

If a woman talks about another guy, he will always have the subtle undertone that she would have a much better time with him.

Women never come first in his life.

He always has a purpose or a priority that is more important to him than SHE is, and no woman will ever control him.

Take a minute and review these traits – find ways you can “internalize” them and make them your own.

When you do, you’ll find they become an “automatic” part of who you are – and women will find themselves “naturally” attracted to you.

[Ed. Note: Since 2001, David DeAngelo has helped over 10 million men improve their success with women. His programs teach men how to overcome their fear of rejection, successfully meet and attract women, and become the kind of man who can be in a successful relationship with a high quality, beautiful woman. Meet and date the kind of women you've always wanted click here now.]

I’d like to talk about a concept that is rather difficult for most men to “get”.

Ironically, it’s a concept that’s rather easy to understand, but because it’s so illogical and “counter intuitive” it’s also easy to miss entirely.

It’s understanding what attracts women.

And what I’m about to share with you took me literally YEARS to figure out… even though it was right in front of my face the whole time.

When I first decided to get this area called ” Women and Dating” handled in my own life, I did what I think most guys do… I THOUGHT a lot about it, I READ a lot about it, and I ASKED a lot about it.

I’ve spent a lot of time studying psychology and human behavior, because it fascinates me… and I figured that all of my understanding about how people worked would really give me an advantage in this quest I had started.

And since I think I’m pretty smart, I figured that this would be something that I’d get figured out rather quickly.

Well, what a humbling experience I was in for.

As I soon learned, it’s not easy to solve an illogical problem by thinking about it logically!

In fact, now that I know better, I think that attraction IS rather logical… it’s just that how it works is so UNEXPECTED that it SEEMS illogical. But for now, let’s just use the term “illogical” because it forces the mind to put aside pre-conceived notions of what “should” happen

As I was trying to figure all this stuff out for myself (and keep in mind, I had no idea that I would later write a book to help others) I kept running into challenges.

It seemed that every logical thing I did just didn’t work in a way that made sense.

Attraction : Man v. Women

One of the biggest mistakes I made was ASSUMING THAT ATTRACTION WORKED THE SAME WAY FOR WOMEN THAT IT DOES FOR MEN.

It only made sense that since men are attracted to looks and sweet personalities that women should be too … right?

So, of course, I tried to work this angle by wearing nice clothes, doing nice things for women, and being the NICEST guy you could ever meet. I was accommodating to the extreme. I would do whatever a woman wanted, and basically accepted whatever flaky or manipulative behaviors she used with me.

But since none of that stuff seemed to really help at all, I just kept coming to the same conclusion:

I MUST NOT BE ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH, GOOD LOOKING ENOUGH, RICH ENOUGH, OR SOMETHING ENOUGH.

I was doing everything I could imagine to be a nice, sweet, great guy… but women just didn’t seem to respond to me in a “sexually attracted” way…

“It must just be me that’s the problem,” I thought.

Well, fortunately for me, I’m not one to quit easily.

I stuck with it, and I finally did something that had a PROFOUND impact on my personal success…

I MADE FRIENDS WITH DIFFERENT GUYS WHO WERE ” NATURALLY “SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN AND I WATCHED WHAT THEY DID.

When I think back now, I think to myself “DUH!”

But it REALLY made a huge difference.

Here’s a big revelation I learned from them:

Men are more attracted to physical traits, and women are more attracted to PERSONALITY traits.

Men are instantly attracted to the sight of a young, shapely female body. As a man, you know that this process happens instantly and “all by itself”, meaning you don’t really have a choice in the matter

Well, WOMEN are attracted when they interact with a man that has certain QUALITIES and PERSONALITY TRAITS

Think about that for a moment.

Men become attracted to what they can see. Women become attracted by what can NEVER be seen.

Do physical looks, money, fame, power, height, age, etc. play into this at all?

Of course they do.

But they’re not NEARLY as important as most men think they are.

To sum up…

• Attraction is different for men than it is for women
• While men are attracted mostly by physical traits, women are attracted mostly by PERSONALITY traits.

Women don’t decide who to feel attracted to with their logical minds. They “decide” with their emotions and then make up reasons and rationalize it.

[Ed. Note: Since 2001, David DeAngelo has helped over 10 million men improve their success with women. His programs teach men how to overcome their fear of rejection, successfully meet and attract women, and become the kind of man who can be in a successful relationship with a high quality, beautiful woman. Meet and date the kind of women you've always wanted click here now.]

I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.

If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if I’m in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this, that GETTING PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESN’T EQUAL SUCCESS.

When you call a woman for the first time, she’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. It’s almost like she’s a different person than the one you met.

I’ve found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. It’s almost as if women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think about what you’re going to say when you write an email to them and they think of you more like someone they know.

Here’s How to Get a Woman’s Number Fast:

After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’ll often say something like “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to my friends.”

They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say “It was nice meeting you too…”Then, just as I’m turning to walk away and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say “HEY! Do you have email?”

The “HEY!” is a bit surprising and “Do you have email” is non-threatening. In fact, I’m technically asking her if she HAS email, not if she’ll GIVE IT TO ME.

If she says “yes,” I take out a pen and paper and say “Great, write it down for me” and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they’ve almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE’S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say “Write your number down there too.”

When you ask for an email, it’s very low risk for a woman, so she’ll think “Fine, I’ll do that.” Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.

The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE they’re in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior.

She’s already mentally said “OK, I’ll give you my email address”… and she’s in the middle of writing it down. When you say “And just write your number down there too” it’s only NATURAL to just write it.

In other words, it’s a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.

Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things. And I’ve gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. I’ve gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two – no kidding!

Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it’s small, classy, and women love it!

And if you’re reading this and saying to yourself, “Man, I want to get MORE of these tips so I can get more numbers and dates than ever,” then you really need to go get a free trial of my Double Your Dating eBook.

I’ll share with you the secrets that thousands of my readers all over the world are using right now to meet women and get more dates. You’ll learn how to approach women, how to get more dates, places to take women that are fun and FREE instead of paying for expensive dinners, how to get physical with women, and a lot more.

It’s time for you to get this part of your life handled – so you can walk up to ANY woman confidently, and have the best chance possible of walking away with her number. In my book, I’ll show you EXACTLY how to do this, step by step… and a whole lot more.

[Ed. Note: Since 2001, David DeAngelo has helped over 10 million men improve their success with women. His programs teach men how to overcome their fear of rejection, successfully meet and attract women, and become the kind of man who can be in a successful relationship with a high quality, beautiful woman. Meet and date the kind of women you've always wanted click here now.]

I’ve got a question for you: Do women enjoy being hit on – or do they loath it?

If YOU know in your heart-of-hearts women enjoy it – maybe even love it – you’re well on your way to experiencing massive success with da ladies.

If you’ve got the belief, though, that women find men hitting on them more annoying than nails against a chalk board you’re in big trouble.

But DON’T worry, my friend, because you’re in the same position most men are.

Many a man believes women hate to be hit on – and rightfully so.

If you, for example, frequent the bar or club scene you’ve probably overheard groups of women yapping away about how they fear and loath men hitting on them.

But if this were so, women would wear shower curtains to bars and nightclubs.

But they don’t.

They, instead, wear skimpy little outfits to maximize the amount of male attention they get.

I’m gonna return to this train of thought in a moment.

But before I do, I want to shed some serious light on why believing women don’t like to be hit on is akin to sentencing your penis to life in prison with no chance of parole.

No hope of him ever vacationing in that warm, cuddly place he enjoys dancing into the wee hours of the morning to that old Digital Underground song “Do The Humpty Hump.”

The only love he’s gonna get is from Bubba’s nether regions.

Having this belief will cause a man to fear and loath hitting on women.

He’ll, for example, think to himself: “If I approach a woman she’ll see me as an insidious little vermin she wants shunted from her reality.”

If he does get up the gall to approach a woman, he’s gonna have scrawled across his forehead in permanent red ink: “I’m so scared you’ll reject me, I’m about to poop my pants.”

This will communicate to her, he’s a consummate gimp. Women feel no attraction for gimps. They feel attraction toward men who are a Prize they’ve gotta win over.

Okay. I think I’ve convinced you of how wretched this belief is. How it will pound any future opportunities with beautiful women into jelly.

But you might be having second thoughts.

Maybe you’re not fully convinced.

So I’m gonna rewind and go back to my original train of thought: “The belief that women don’t like to be hit on is crap.”

If this belief ever crossed paths with the Food & Drug Administration they’d stamp it with an official FDA seal saying: “100% Certified B.S.”

Why do you think women spend so much time – sometimes hours – primping and preening themselves to go out to nightclubs and bars?

Because they want to be hit on.

There’s a school of thought, though, that says: “Women don’t dress up for men; they do it for other women.”

I think there’s a grain of truth here but what this means is that women dress up to compete with other women for male attention. For male validation.

In other words, one of the reasons women put time into primping and preening themselves is to compete for who gets hit on the most by men.

Many a woman will never explicitly admit she enjoys men hitting on her.

If she did, she’d risk other women perceiving her as being at the top of the Slut-O-Meter.

Or, even worse, people thinking she’s a power hungry rhymes-with-witch.

Wanting to be hit on is one of women’s dirty little secrets.

Think of those stupid, gossip magazines – such as, Enquire and Star. Almost everyone talks about how stupid these publications are and claims to have never picked one up.

This is B.S.

If most people didn’t read them, their circulation wouldn’t be so widespread.

The lurid reality is this: Most of us can’t wait to get our dirty little paws all over these magazines while standing in line at the supermarket.

A lot of us have too much pride to admit it.

But almost all of us get picked up by our lapels and sucked into the contents of these papers.

Same holds true with women. Most women claim, they hate when guys hit on them.

But most women love it. They can’t get enough of it.

But they’ll never admit it. It’s their dirty little secret.

When you make no apologies for hitting on a woman and convey the belief that by YOU hitting on her you’re doing her a favor, it lets her know she’s dealing with a real man who’s a Prize she has to win over.

If YOU believe women want and love to be hit on, you’re half way to massive success with women. All you’ve gotta do is learn the right way to hit on women.

[Ed. Note: Since 2001, David DeAngelo has helped over 10 million men improve their success with women. His programs teach men how to overcome their fear of rejection, successfully meet and attract women, and become the kind of man who can be in a successful relationship with a high quality, beautiful woman. Meet and date the kind of women you've always wanted click here now.]

I was talking to a good friend of mine a few nights ago, and he told me an interesting story.

He was walking home recently, when he walked by a couple who were obviously in an emotional discussion.

As it turned out, the woman was breaking up with the man, and he was trying to understand why.

The interchange went something like this:

Her: “I’m not ATTRACTED to you anymore… I just don’t FEEL IT.”

Him: “But I would do ANYTHING to make this work…I’ll do anything you want… just tell me what to do.”

Her: “That’s the problem. You just don’t get it.”

…and that was all he heard.

Have you ever been there?

Have you ever had a girlfriend break up with you, or just drift away, and the more you tried to hold on, the further she ran from you? And the more you tried to be a “good guy” and please her, the more distant she became?

Well, me too. I’ve been there MORE than once in my life.

And it ALWAYS SUCKED.

The worst part about it was NEVER UNDERSTANDING

WHAT THE HECK WAS GOING ON!

I can remember being that guy I just told you the story about… and asking “Why? Why are you confused? What do I have to do to make this work?”

I was willing to change, act different, or whatever.

Little did I know at the time, but it was this EXACT attitude that led to all the problems in the first place.

If you’ve read my newsletters for awhile now, you probably know that women don’t feel the emotion called ATTRACTION for guys who act weak, needy, insecure and “WUSS-LIKE”.

But unless you know this to begin with, then it’s ALL TOO EASY to become a “nice”, overly-accommodating, uninteresting, predictable, boring guy… and even though it seems logical that a woman should love to be treated like a queen at all times, you’ve probably found out, just like I have, that this combination usually leads to a woman either 1) Leaving you… or 2) Becoming increasingly controlling, domineering, and neurotic.

So what’s up with that? Why does this happen? And more importantly, what can we do to avoid getting into this horrible position of losing a woman’s attention because we’re trying to be nice to her?

Here’s my take, after studying this stuff for many, many years now…

1. ATTRACTION ISN’T A CHOICE.

In other words, we humans don’t CHOOSE who we feel attracted to… and, JUST AS IMPORTANT, who we DON’T feel attracted to.

ATTRACTION happens for reasons all its own, and these reasons have evolved inside of us over time.

While culture, peer pressure, and trends can shape our natural drives slightly, the FUNDAMENTALS NEVER CHANGE.

2. MEN ARE ATTRACTED MORE TO LOOKS, WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED MORE TO PERSONALITY AND CHARACTER.

Most men can’t believe it, but to a woman your looks just aren’t that important.

Sure, if you don’t take care of yourself, don’t bathe, and let two of your front teeth rot out you might scare away the ladies.

But for the most part, women will look past just about ANY physical issue if she feels that all-important emotion called ATTRACTION.

And ATTRACTION is created by your PERSONALITY.

For women, ATTRACTION is triggered by male qualities like: Dominance, Humor, Unpredictability, Adventure, Strength, Sexual Awareness, Indifference, etc.

3. WOMEN AREN’T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.

Nuff said.

4. WOMEN TEST MEN BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO.

When a woman begins to feel a romantic connection with you, she faces an interesting problem…

How can she tell for sure if your character and personality are the way you’re expressing them?

As we all know, men and women BOTH show off and exaggerate their “good sides” while downplaying and hiding their negative traits at first. This is why men suck-in their guts, brag, and show off… and why women wear makeup, do their hair, and shop all day for their clothes.

If you were a woman, and you needed to figure out if a man was showing you his “true self”, how would you do it?

What if you had to know FOR SURE?

The only way is to TEST on an ongoing basis, and to keep escalating the tests to be sure.

Put all this together (with a bunch of other factors that I don’t have time to talk about) and you get an interesting problem that women face…

A woman responds to a man that stirs her emotions, and causes her to want him so badly that she’ll put aside all logic and reason to be with him.

But what if the man is just pretending? What if he only SEEMS to be this confident, funny, manly-man on the outside, but he’s actually a push-over WUSS-BAG that is insecure and makes up for it by acting like a tough guy?

Or worse yet, what if he’s a WUSS all the time, and she just happened to settle for him because he was available and persistent… and she didn’t have anything better going on at the time… but now she has other options?

Well, these are the kinds of situations, that when played out, lead to the story that I started with… a man begging a woman to stay… pleading with her to explain what he has to do to keep her.

Of course, this is all WUSSY behavior, and it only serves to put the final nail in the coffin, convincing the object of your desire that you are ABSOLUTELY, beyond the shadow of any doubt, a Wuss.

So what’s the answer?

The answer is to NEVER BE THOUGHT OF AS A WUSSY AGAIN!

If you want to make your dating life a whole lot better and easier, then stop and think about your behavior… and resolve right now to stop acting like a WUSS for the rest of your life.

Being “nice” and “accommodating” and “understanding” is great for friendships and social relationships, but it’s HORRIBLE for ATTRACTION.

An interesting, attractive woman doesn’t want a guy that she can push around. She doesn’t want a guy who does what she wants him to do. She doesn’t want a little boy that she can train and raise.

An interesting, attractive woman wants a MAN.

This doesn’t make LOGICAL sense, I know. But it’s the truth. These submissive qualities will only work in attracting a woman IF SHE LIKES DRESSING UP IN LEATHER AND WHIPPING HER MAN… AND CHARGING $400.00 AN HOUR!

And my guess is that this isn’t the kind of woman that you’re looking for.

[Ed. Note: Since 2001, David DeAngelo has helped over 10 million men improve their success with women. His programs teach men how to overcome their fear of rejection, successfully meet and attract women, and become the kind of man who can be in a successful relationship with a high quality, beautiful woman. Meet and date the kind of women you've always wanted click here now.]

I’d like to talk a bit about how we program ourselves and become programmed when it comes to dealing with women…as well as how to overcome the negative programming that we often don’t even recognize within ourselves.

Let me ask you 4 questions. Take a moment to think about the answers…maybe even write them down.

1. When it comes to women, do you have an overall “positive” outlook towards your success? Do you believe that there is “abundance” when it comes to women, and that you can go out at any time and get a date if you want to? Why or why not?
2. Do you have any negative beliefs or programming when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you’d like to meet or asking women out on dates? Do you believe that you’re going to be intruding or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do you believe that a woman will most likely accept or reject a date request from you?
3. Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that you have towards women, or have they been “chosen for you” by others, situations, programming, TV, the media, etc.?
4. Would you like to change some of the attitudes and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so, which ones and what would you like to change them to?

If you’re like most guys I know who would like to improve their success with women, then you probably have one or two “negative programs” in your subconscious mind (if you’re like I used to be before I learned the things I know now, then you might have A LOT of them).

I can remember when I used to believe that women would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike up an unexpected conversation with them.

I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment.

I can remember thinking, “Why would a woman find ME attractive?” And believing that the truly desirable, beautiful women out there just wouldn’t find a guy like me interesting or attractive because I wasn’t rich, tall, famous, buff, or of royal descent.

And as a matter of fact, even though I’ve spent literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning as much as I could about women and attraction, I still know that somewhere deep in my subconscious mind this old programming exists. Of course, it doesn’t affect my behavior the way it used to, but my point is that once you program yourself or open yourself to programming from others and from our modern culture, it’s sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming and go on to be successful.

Let me give you a little Tough Love:

NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS STUFF OUT WITH WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU’RE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN…OTHER THAN YOU.

Really.

If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women that you’ve always wanted, it won’t matter to anyone. Your friends won’t think you’re any cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom won’t stop nagging you, your boss won’t pay you more money, and you won’t lose that extra 10 pounds that you’ve needed to lose for the past 10 years.

It just doesn’t matter. No one cares.

THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU.

And the only one that’s going to be able to do anything about this programming that we’re talking about IS YOU.

Your buddies aren’t going to come over tomorrow night and say, “Hey, you know, I’ve been thinking about it. You really need to do something about your subconscious programming in the area of women and dating, and I’d like to help you.”

Your mom isn’t going to call you up and say, “You know, dear, I’ve been thinking about it, and I really put some bad ideas in your mind about how to treat women…I’d like to address those things in this call and help you become the mac daddy you’ve always wanted to be.”

Nope.

You’re not going to get a call from the guys that run the ads that say, “Show her that you love her by spending five grand on a pair of diamond earrings” to tell you that the ads really aren’t true and that no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if you’re programmed to act like a WUSSY.

It just ain’t gonna happen that way.

If you want to do something about your programming and your success, you’re going to have to DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

Here, let me say that again…just in case you didn’t get it.

YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

And what’s the best way to do it yourself?

This is a fantastic question.

There are a lot of ways to get it going, but I have a few favorites..and since we only have a little time together in this newsletter, I’ll get right to the point.

Look around and pay careful attention to what’s REALLY going on.

Just like a comedian looks at the fine details and tells stories about things that we never see…but are right there in front of us, you need to look closer.

Here’s a little story.

I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I hadn’t been to Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seemed new to me..there were about 5 huge new hotels that had just opened, and I spent the day walking around and just seeing the sights.

As I walked around, I looked at the people and especially at the couples. I’m not sure if it was because I was looking at all of the new sights or what, but for some reason I was really noticing a lot of little details… and I was paying special attention to the couples that were strolling around on the strip.

It’s always amazing to me how attractive women will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages.

When you really look around and pay attention to what’s actually going on, you’ll be amazed.

And you don’t have to be in Vegas to see this phenomenon yourself. Just go out on a Friday night and look around.

Now, before you say, “Yeah, but if you’re rich or handsome or tall you’ll get more chicks”, I will acknowledge that these things can provide certain advantages, but they’re not NEAR the level of advantage that WOMEN get from being physically attractive…not even close, actually.

The more I pay attention, learn and try things, the more I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY far more than they respond to LOOKS.

I’ve even made it a point to ask guys who are tall, handsome, etc., if they believe that their success with women comes from those things. Almost universally they tell me that their ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far more important than their looks.

I’ve also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems meeting women. The more experience I have with this, the more I realize just how little LOOKS has to do with the equation.

You’ve probably read some of these newsletters where good looking guys write in and say, “I’m buff, good looking, and I have women talking to me all the time, but I can’t get any dates..they only like me as a friend.”

So, part of this step is for you to take a day or so and go out in public… to a place that is PACKED with people, and look around at the couples. Look with your own two eyes and see all of the attractive women that are with guys who are NOT what you would consider to be “physically attractive.”

You need to see with your own eyes what’s going on in the REAL world.

This is a big step in changing some of your programming.

Watch some guys who are successful with women.

One of the best things I’ve ever done is make friends with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I’m talking about success with women here). As a matter of fact, most of the techniques that I’ve learned, developed, and write about originally started out as something I got from friends by watching them interact with women.</p.

When you watch guys who know how to make women feel that magical emotion called “ATTRACTION”, you’ll start to see the patterns in their behavior, and the patterns in the responses from women.

Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes later with her number.

So make some new friends if you have to. Just do what it takes to watch some guys interact with women. It’s a big one.

Stop looking for a “magic pill”.

Realize that you’re going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and improve.

I know, I know. You’d like to take a pill and have this whole part of your life handled.

You’d like a computer chip implanted in your brain that will change you into a chick-magnet.

Well, until these things exist, you’re going to have to do it the old fashioned way…you’re going to have to actually DO SOMETHING.

At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable. You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just to look at the people.

But don’t worry, no one will care (remember what I said earlier…nobody cares whether or not you’re successful, only you do).

The more you improve, the more you’ll WANT to improve, and the easier it will become.

Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal, write down what works and what doesn’t, think about the things you’d like to change and write them down.

JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME.

If you do these things, you’ll begin to REPROGRAM YOURSELF and change your negative programming into POSITIVE programming and success.

[Ed. Note: Since 2001, David DeAngelo has helped over 10 million men improve their success with women. His programs teach men how to overcome their fear of rejection, successfully meet and attract women, and become the kind of man who can be in a successful relationship with a high quality, beautiful woman. Meet and date the kind of women you've always wanted click here now.]

I get a lot of emails from guys who ask me what they should do, because they’ve met an UNUSUALLY attractive woman. It seems that most men intuitively guess that they need to do something SPECIAL with a REALLY hot woman… something different than they’d usually do. And partially, that’s true

One of the things that you will want to remember when you’re dealing with the UNUSUALLY attractive women… is … that they are used to being treated special because of their physical beauty, and not appreciated for their minds or talents.

Beauty creates distance.

The more beautiful a woman is (or makes herself with makeup, clothing, hairstyles, and other “enhancements”) the more difficult it becomes for other humans to interact with her and communicate with her in a “normal” way.

When you start talking to a woman who has obviously spent many hours preparing herself, putting on makeup, choosing just the right outfit, doing her hair, and MOST IMPORTANTLY practicing that certain “attitude” that creates the air of untouchable beauty, YOU CAN FEEL IT.

Something is very different.

She knows it and you know it.

And she WANTS you to know it…

IT GIVES WOMEN POWER BECAUSE IT CAUSES MEN TO “GIVE AWAY ” THEIR POWER.

…so let’s talk about what these things mean…and what to do about them…

How do you communicate to a model, actress or dancer that you’re comfortable with them, and not intimidated by their job or beauty? There is a type of guy that STANDS OUT… the kind of guy that comes along maybe every few months… or maybe only once a year.

Right! Make fun of them!

If a woman says“ I’m a model”, say “Oh, like a parts model or something? What, do you have sexy toes? ” If she says “I’m an actress, ” say “Nice, so what you’re telling me is that you’re a waitress, but you do some extra work on the side? ” If she’s a topless dancer, say “How did you get this job? What, did you have to pay someone off?”

Joking around, busting on them, and teasing INSTANTLY communicates that you’re NOT going to give them any special treatment for their “beauty job”, and that, if anything, you see their job as an “average” thing to be doing.

Works like magic..

So what does a woman who has it all WANT?

SHE WANTS TO BE “CHALLENGED. ”

Here’s a GREAT mindset to take with a woman who seems to be a little too used to “the good life” …

Just say “You know what? You’re a spoiled BRAT. ” That should get her attention.

Then follow up with “It’s too bad you’re not more of a normal, nice girl… ” The protests should be starting by this point…

“But I AM a nice girl…”

“Suuuure you are. Me too. “

Are you with me? The message is “Just because you’re spoiled and snotty, don’t think you’re going to get special treatment from me. In fact, it’s a problem. ”

This creates a HUGE challenge (which attractive women love), and sets you apart from all the other “boring” guys she’s been out with lately. Will some women stick their noses up in the air and laugh at you? Sure, it will happen once in awhile. Good. It’s better sooner than later… and I mean that.

Oh, one more IMPORTANT thing.

I’d like you to think for a moment about what it’s like when you see a REALLY beautiful woman walk by. I’m talking about the kind of woman that you only see every few MONTHS or so… maybe once a year. Think about how you stop, look again, keep looking …And how it makes you feel inside

Guess what?

Does this sound a little crazy?

To that unusually beautiful woman, most men seem the same. To her, men all blur together into a big mass of compliments, offers for dates, and attention. But there is a type of guy that REALLY makes her stop, do a double take, and pay attention. There is a type of guy that STANDS OUT… the kind of guy that comes along maybe every few months… or maybe only once a year.

The question I have for you is …

WILL YOU BE THAT GUY?

Or are you going to just be another one of the dozens and hundreds and thousands of guys that just stand and stare… or give away their power in hopes that this goddess will see fit to bless you with even a pinch of her attention? If you want to know all the steps, top to bottom and front to back for how to be this kind of guy, then I have a hint for you …

Go get my eBook “Double Your Dating”, which can you can download and be reading in just a few minutes…

It’s time for you to stop sitting on the sidelines admiring all the beautiful women you see, and start DATING them. I’ll show you how.

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