Usually I’m giving you some tips on how to date hot
girls or improve yourself, make more money, and things
like that.

But, I’ve got to say, sometimes I get really frustrated and
angry when things aren’t working the way I want.

Do you know what I mean?

I mean I get really angry to the point where its stupid.

Because the truth is, I know I control my life. And my
life is what I make of it.

And its the same for you.

So, the truth is, the way out of the frustration for you and
for me is to actually help other people out.

As odd as it seems… that’s the bottom line..

When you do that you’ll gain more money, hotter women,
more opportunities.

But, sometimes, its just easy to feel so absolutely alone..
like you’re solo and no one gets it.

And no one cares…

The truth is, you’re not… well… even if you think you are.

There is someone else out there like me who has or is
going through the same thing.

When you feel alone, its a scary place. Because really, you
are shut down… dying inside, almost..

And you’re definitely NOT at your best…

and you’re not attracting ANYTHING good.

So, I would say, if you are feeling that way, like I am now,
the best thing to do is to break out of it by doing something
for someone else.

I’m trying to do that now. Just emailing this out, and hoping
that someone is understanding they’re not alone.. if they’re
feeling this way.

I’ll have more to push forward soon… so we can focus on
the good stuff… beautiful women, enjoying life, making
more money..

However, there are so many relationships that don’t have a happy ending because there is always one party who lies. So, what are the reasons why people cheat in relationships?

Here are some reasons:

1. Lack of self-acceptance
According to a psychologist, one of the roots of dishonesty is lack of self-acceptance. For example, a person promised someone that he will be faithful to her but then eventually looks for another woman to find satisfaction. In this case, the reason of dishonesty is because the guy lack self-acceptance. There is a part of him who believes that he should promise faithfulness to someone to have her love and an opposing part of him wants to satisfy his urge to look for something else.

2. That is how they were brought up.
Another reason why a person cheats, is that dishonesty roots from his childhood.  It is possible that during childhood a person’s parents also lie. And so, a kid will grow up thinking that it is okay to be dishonest. Eventually, the kid will grow up and will not bother being honest to anyone else.

3. Peer Pressure
If a person is being pressured by his friends to commit dishonesty, the tendency is, he will eventually give in. For example, if a guy have some friends who also cheat, this guy might soon cheat his girlfriend. It could be that his friends pressure him to do so.

Well, there are so many other reasons why a person becomes dishonest in a relationship. However, regardless what the reason is, there is no excuse that a person cheats in a relationship. No matter what, such act can create a damage in the other person. Indeed, ‘honestly is always the best policy’. And remember, if you want to be happy then be honest.

The research shows that after a man spends time with an attractive woman he performs less well in tests designed to measure brain function than when he chats with those he doesn’t find attractive. Do genes have something to do with this? Well, we’re already aware that even the smartest guy can get dumb and tongue-twisted when talking to an attractive woman, but what’s the scientific explanation for this?

Psychologists at Radboud University in The Netherlands carried out the study after one of them got so stuck at trying to impress the attractive woman he was talking to that he forgot his own address after the woman asked him where he lived.

To see if other men are affected the same way, they recruited 40 male heterosexuals students. First, the volunteers took a standard memory test where they have to observe a stream of letters, and say as fast as possible, if each one was the same as the one before last. After the test, the volunteers then spent seven minutes chatting with the male and female members of the research team before taking the test again.

The results showed men are slower and less accurate after trying to impress the women they were talking to. The more they fancied them, the worse their score.

When the task was repeated by female volunteers, the results were different. Memory scores stayed the same , whether they chatted to a man or a woman.

The researchers concluded that men’s cognitive functioning may temporarily decline after an interaction with attractive women. One psychologist said when a man meets a pretty woman, he is what we call ‘reproductively focused’. A woman on the other hand, looks for signs of other attributes like wealth, youth and kindness.

First, a woman’s ‘no’ actually means ‘no’. You might think that women don’t always say what they really feel. So when you ask her if she wants dessert and she says ‘no’, it’s possible that she means yes, but reverse psychology doesn’t work in this situation. If she doesn’t want you to do it and you still do it, she would take it as you not respecting her decision. Independence is very important for a woman and if she feels that her decision-making is not respected, she will be so quick to stay away from you. Women look for this red flag because this could lead to more control-issues.

Second, bad-mouthing others is a big mistake. You might think that women like to gossip about other people and you might try to use this style to make conversations… big mistake. It’s okay to talk about your goofy experience with your buddies but to dish-dirt about your co-workers, family, friends or criticize someone close to you will not be impressive at all. This means your loyalty is not stable or you just don’t have it and it will keep the woman wondering if she’s the next victim.

Third red flag, holiday aversion. Women likes holidays. We like to celebrate, we like parties, we like gifts and all the happy stuff on a holiday or any special occasion. So if you don’t want us to think that you have a troubled childhood or just too cheap to celebrate, then don’t murmur about your hatred for holidays.

This will lead us to the fourth red flag – lack of ambition. Ambition deficiency is not just bad for men but for everyone. Women likes men who has a job because that shows him being responsible, but you will gain more respect from a woman if you love your job. We find it sexy if a man is proud of his job for it shows that he knows what he wants. But if you’re a slacker who doesn’t want to get promoted because you don’t want more responsibility, then you’re getting the red flag.

Fifth, avoid neglectful behavior. Any man of dating age should know the basic ideal qualities of a gentleman. You should be polite, respectful and most of all, you should show her that you love the time you spend with her. Meaning, avoid any possible distractions. Answering your cellphone while you’re having dinner together is not very pleasant. Introduction should be done when you bump into anyone you know. Conversations should be polite and mutual, meaning, don’t let her do all the talking and thinking, or better yet, don’t do all the talking yourself.

Different things happen in first dates or dating in general. But it pays to observe the basic rules so you won’t be so clueless of the game. Now that you’ve read some of the list, you’re ready to go to the field. So good luck.

There are different ways for you to ramp up your confidence.You can start in your physical apperance.You can try some new style with your clothes or your hair.These tactics can work better than any other but there is one tactic you can use that can really help to build up your confidence, it’s an ancient word called the psychological affirmation.

Affirmation is a mental statement or picture which is recurrent time and time again until it rules your sub-conscious and finally convert it into something your belief in yourself.

You can also focuss on the reason why did she leaves you.Because if you gonna apply this affirmation restate over again, in proccess you will start to think positive thoughts.And maybe it will help your ex girlfriend to modify the way she judge you.

man

Some believe that men are visual creatures. Some say it’s a fact, and it means that they may be capable of giving unconditional love to their wife, their desire is conditional. Meaning the external also plays a role. One of the moms on The Real Housewives of New Jersey says: “Even if you are a busy mom, you don’t want to look like a mom. You want to always look like their girlfriend, otherwise, they’ll wish they had a new girlfriend.”

This is not a very positive statement, yes. On a wife’s point of view, it means she should be a little conscious of how she looks even if she already have 7 children, or else she’ll be giving her husband a reason to be unfaithful. That isn’t fair at all. On a man’s side, on the other hand, that statement above could be a heavy accusation. Not all men is that shallow. I’m sure some real men believes that they can give unconditional love as well as unconditional desire to their wife. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If there’s adjustment in perspective, then the idea of beauty also changes.

The external plays a role, of course, in the beginning when you have just met each other. But when you’re in the married state, a normal reasonable man matures with everything about marriage. His life changes as his priorities change. This may not be true with all marriages, but if we talk about ways of viewing love and desire, it’s not on the gender. It’s on the individual. The personality of the individual, his quality as a person.

It’s true that men are visual creatures, but aren’t we all?

Nothing is attractive to a girl more than a man who can lead his own life and pursues his own individuality with a passion that is rarely represented in this culture.

Besides the clear advantage that women get from this sequencing (I know it ain’t easy for you too – but free dinners twice a week isn’t a good deal), this also doesn’t really lend itself to a lasting relationship. Grow your social circle, become the leader of the social circle, cultivate friendships with as many women within the group that you want, then see who of them you really click with. And from there, something more real and organic can happen.

Men can learn a certain dominant, assertive skills which help you be more successful with dating. Learning how to be comfortable with asserting yourself is pretty important.

Women have a very keen sense of mannerisms and can notice it a mile away. A woman need to see the man being confident. Having a good posture and body language. Bad posture gives the impression of low confidence. Situational humor, may come in the form of dry observation, is more interesting than an actual joke with a set-up and a punch-line. Find out what you have in common, and reward her with a smile and a story of your own if she tells you something unique about herself to which you can relate. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t. It’s probably easier to get a girlfriend through social circles, but I don’t think that people who are entering the community are looking easy.

The single and most important thing in finding a lasting, healthy relationship is friendship. How to get a girlfriend starts with a friendship.