I’d like to talk a bit about how we program ourselves and become programmed when it comes to dealing with women…as well as how to overcome the negative programming that we often don’t even recognize within ourselves.

Let me ask you 4 questions. Take a moment to think about the answers…maybe even write them down.

1. When it comes to women, do you have an overall “positive” outlook towards your success? Do you believe that there is “abundance” when it comes to women, and that you can go out at any time and get a date if you want to? Why or why not?
2. Do you have any negative beliefs or programming when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you’d like to meet or asking women out on dates? Do you believe that you’re going to be intruding or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do you believe that a woman will most likely accept or reject a date request from you?
3. Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that you have towards women, or have they been “chosen for you” by others, situations, programming, TV, the media, etc.?
4. Would you like to change some of the attitudes and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so, which ones and what would you like to change them to?

If you’re like most guys I know who would like to improve their success with women, then you probably have one or two “negative programs” in your subconscious mind (if you’re like I used to be before I learned the things I know now, then you might have A LOT of them).

I can remember when I used to believe that women would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike up an unexpected conversation with them.

I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment.

I can remember thinking, “Why would a woman find ME attractive?” And believing that the truly desirable, beautiful women out there just wouldn’t find a guy like me interesting or attractive because I wasn’t rich, tall, famous, buff, or of royal descent.

And as a matter of fact, even though I’ve spent literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning as much as I could about women and attraction, I still know that somewhere deep in my subconscious mind this old programming exists. Of course, it doesn’t affect my behavior the way it used to, but my point is that once you program yourself or open yourself to programming from others and from our modern culture, it’s sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming and go on to be successful.

Let me give you a little Tough Love:

NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS STUFF OUT WITH WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU’RE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN…OTHER THAN YOU.

Really.

If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women that you’ve always wanted, it won’t matter to anyone. Your friends won’t think you’re any cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom won’t stop nagging you, your boss won’t pay you more money, and you won’t lose that extra 10 pounds that you’ve needed to lose for the past 10 years.

It just doesn’t matter. No one cares.

THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU.

And the only one that’s going to be able to do anything about this programming that we’re talking about IS YOU.

Your buddies aren’t going to come over tomorrow night and say, “Hey, you know, I’ve been thinking about it. You really need to do something about your subconscious programming in the area of women and dating, and I’d like to help you.”

Your mom isn’t going to call you up and say, “You know, dear, I’ve been thinking about it, and I really put some bad ideas in your mind about how to treat women…I’d like to address those things in this call and help you become the mac daddy you’ve always wanted to be.”

Nope.

You’re not going to get a call from the guys that run the ads that say, “Show her that you love her by spending five grand on a pair of diamond earrings” to tell you that the ads really aren’t true and that no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if you’re programmed to act like a WUSSY.

It just ain’t gonna happen that way.

If you want to do something about your programming and your success, you’re going to have to DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

Here, let me say that again…just in case you didn’t get it.

YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

And what’s the best way to do it yourself?

This is a fantastic question.

There are a lot of ways to get it going, but I have a few favorites..and since we only have a little time together in this newsletter, I’ll get right to the point.

Look around and pay careful attention to what’s REALLY going on.

Just like a comedian looks at the fine details and tells stories about things that we never see…but are right there in front of us, you need to look closer.

Here’s a little story.

I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I hadn’t been to Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seemed new to me..there were about 5 huge new hotels that had just opened, and I spent the day walking around and just seeing the sights.

As I walked around, I looked at the people and especially at the couples. I’m not sure if it was because I was looking at all of the new sights or what, but for some reason I was really noticing a lot of little details… and I was paying special attention to the couples that were strolling around on the strip.

It’s always amazing to me how attractive women will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages.

When you really look around and pay attention to what’s actually going on, you’ll be amazed.

And you don’t have to be in Vegas to see this phenomenon yourself. Just go out on a Friday night and look around.

Now, before you say, “Yeah, but if you’re rich or handsome or tall you’ll get more chicks”, I will acknowledge that these things can provide certain advantages, but they’re not NEAR the level of advantage that WOMEN get from being physically attractive…not even close, actually.

The more I pay attention, learn and try things, the more I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY far more than they respond to LOOKS.

I’ve even made it a point to ask guys who are tall, handsome, etc., if they believe that their success with women comes from those things. Almost universally they tell me that their ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far more important than their looks.

I’ve also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems meeting women. The more experience I have with this, the more I realize just how little LOOKS has to do with the equation.

You’ve probably read some of these newsletters where good looking guys write in and say, “I’m buff, good looking, and I have women talking to me all the time, but I can’t get any dates..they only like me as a friend.”

So, part of this step is for you to take a day or so and go out in public… to a place that is PACKED with people, and look around at the couples. Look with your own two eyes and see all of the attractive women that are with guys who are NOT what you would consider to be “physically attractive.”

You need to see with your own eyes what’s going on in the REAL world.

This is a big step in changing some of your programming.

Watch some guys who are successful with women.

One of the best things I’ve ever done is make friends with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I’m talking about success with women here). As a matter of fact, most of the techniques that I’ve learned, developed, and write about originally started out as something I got from friends by watching them interact with women.</p.

When you watch guys who know how to make women feel that magical emotion called “ATTRACTION”, you’ll start to see the patterns in their behavior, and the patterns in the responses from women.

Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes later with her number.

So make some new friends if you have to. Just do what it takes to watch some guys interact with women. It’s a big one.

Stop looking for a “magic pill”.

Realize that you’re going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and improve.

I know, I know. You’d like to take a pill and have this whole part of your life handled.

You’d like a computer chip implanted in your brain that will change you into a chick-magnet.

Well, until these things exist, you’re going to have to do it the old fashioned way…you’re going to have to actually DO SOMETHING.

At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable. You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just to look at the people.

But don’t worry, no one will care (remember what I said earlier…nobody cares whether or not you’re successful, only you do).

The more you improve, the more you’ll WANT to improve, and the easier it will become.

Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal, write down what works and what doesn’t, think about the things you’d like to change and write them down.

JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME.

If you do these things, you’ll begin to REPROGRAM YOURSELF and change your negative programming into POSITIVE programming and success.

[Ed. Note: Since 2001, David DeAngelo has helped over 10 million men improve their success with women. His programs teach men how to overcome their fear of rejection, successfully meet and attract women, and become the kind of man who can be in a successful relationship with a high quality, beautiful woman. Meet and date the kind of women you've always wanted click here now.]

I get a lot of emails from guys who ask me what they should do, because they’ve met an UNUSUALLY attractive woman. It seems that most men intuitively guess that they need to do something SPECIAL with a REALLY hot woman… something different than they’d usually do. And partially, that’s true

One of the things that you will want to remember when you’re dealing with the UNUSUALLY attractive women… is … that they are used to being treated special because of their physical beauty, and not appreciated for their minds or talents.

Beauty creates distance.

The more beautiful a woman is (or makes herself with makeup, clothing, hairstyles, and other “enhancements”) the more difficult it becomes for other humans to interact with her and communicate with her in a “normal” way.

When you start talking to a woman who has obviously spent many hours preparing herself, putting on makeup, choosing just the right outfit, doing her hair, and MOST IMPORTANTLY practicing that certain “attitude” that creates the air of untouchable beauty, YOU CAN FEEL IT.

Something is very different.

She knows it and you know it.

And she WANTS you to know it…

IT GIVES WOMEN POWER BECAUSE IT CAUSES MEN TO “GIVE AWAY ” THEIR POWER.

…so let’s talk about what these things mean…and what to do about them…

How do you communicate to a model, actress or dancer that you’re comfortable with them, and not intimidated by their job or beauty? There is a type of guy that STANDS OUT… the kind of guy that comes along maybe every few months… or maybe only once a year.

Right! Make fun of them!

If a woman says“ I’m a model”, say “Oh, like a parts model or something? What, do you have sexy toes? ” If she says “I’m an actress, ” say “Nice, so what you’re telling me is that you’re a waitress, but you do some extra work on the side? ” If she’s a topless dancer, say “How did you get this job? What, did you have to pay someone off?”

Joking around, busting on them, and teasing INSTANTLY communicates that you’re NOT going to give them any special treatment for their “beauty job”, and that, if anything, you see their job as an “average” thing to be doing.

Works like magic..

So what does a woman who has it all WANT?

SHE WANTS TO BE “CHALLENGED. ”

Here’s a GREAT mindset to take with a woman who seems to be a little too used to “the good life” …

Just say “You know what? You’re a spoiled BRAT. ” That should get her attention.

Then follow up with “It’s too bad you’re not more of a normal, nice girl… ” The protests should be starting by this point…

“But I AM a nice girl…”

“Suuuure you are. Me too. “

Are you with me? The message is “Just because you’re spoiled and snotty, don’t think you’re going to get special treatment from me. In fact, it’s a problem. ”

This creates a HUGE challenge (which attractive women love), and sets you apart from all the other “boring” guys she’s been out with lately. Will some women stick their noses up in the air and laugh at you? Sure, it will happen once in awhile. Good. It’s better sooner than later… and I mean that.

Oh, one more IMPORTANT thing.

I’d like you to think for a moment about what it’s like when you see a REALLY beautiful woman walk by. I’m talking about the kind of woman that you only see every few MONTHS or so… maybe once a year. Think about how you stop, look again, keep looking …And how it makes you feel inside

Guess what?

Does this sound a little crazy?

To that unusually beautiful woman, most men seem the same. To her, men all blur together into a big mass of compliments, offers for dates, and attention. But there is a type of guy that REALLY makes her stop, do a double take, and pay attention. There is a type of guy that STANDS OUT… the kind of guy that comes along maybe every few months… or maybe only once a year.

The question I have for you is …

WILL YOU BE THAT GUY?

Or are you going to just be another one of the dozens and hundreds and thousands of guys that just stand and stare… or give away their power in hopes that this goddess will see fit to bless you with even a pinch of her attention? If you want to know all the steps, top to bottom and front to back for how to be this kind of guy, then I have a hint for you …

Go get my eBook “Double Your Dating”, which can you can download and be reading in just a few minutes…

It’s time for you to stop sitting on the sidelines admiring all the beautiful women you see, and start DATING them. I’ll show you how.

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